The 5 Erotic Blueprints, what they are and how to identify yours
Lets get straight to the point, the 5 Blueprints are: Sensual; Sexual; Energetic; Kinky, and Shapeshifter.
But you probably want to know more, right? How can you figure out what your Blueprint is? And what about your lover’s? One thing that’s easy is to take the FREE. You can find it by clicking the button below. And then keep reading for more about the Blueprints.
The Erotic Blueprints are archetypes for our love lives. They are something like the Love Languages but definitely not the same and they are specific to what people want in the bedroom or wherever sex happens for them.
When you learn about your Erotic Blueprint and about your lover’s Blueprint/s, a whole world opens up of understanding, for exploration and play, and for deeper satisfaction. Some of us spend our whole lives in a non-native Blueprint and starving for the kind of pleasure we crave, even if we aren’t aware that we are missing out on it.
The SENSUAL Blueprint
Do you love the feel of delicious soft fabrics on your skin—high thread count sheets, satin pillow cases, clothes than glide over your skin…
Scents that activate something in you, things like apple pie or an ocean breeze or line dried sheets?
Do you love the idea of licking honey off your lover’s body? Or maybe it’s chocolate or whipped cream…
When your body is being touched do you like massage, bold strokes on your thighs, being held by your hip bones as they direct your movements?
The SEXUAL Blueprint
Do you know what you like? Is it sex and kissing and going down? Orgasms? Do you know what you want and you are ready to get to the point, to get down and do you like to go there, directly, without dilly dallying around? Or maybe a little dilly dallying on the way, but we do know where this is going, right? And we are going to have orgasms, right? There is definitely an end point and we know what it is.
The ENERGETIC Blueprint
Do you like to be sexted during the day? Tantalization? A long, luxurious lead-in?
When your lover wants you and gifts you deep eye gazing from across a crowded room…or deep eye gazing as you sit in yab yum, lips not quite touching, breath synced as you exchange the Lover’s Breath…does that turn you on?
When your beloved just barely brushes their fingertips across your skin, your inner arms…or inner thighs, when they breathe softly on the fine hairs at the nape of your necks and your whole body goes goose bumply…
The KINKY Blueprint
Where is your edge?
What is taboo for you?
Does taboo…does reaching your edge…turn you on?
Then you have the Kinky blueprint.
Kink is less about black leather (unless that’s kinky for you!) and more about the turn on in the forbidden places of your psyche.
Kink can be having sex in any position other than missionary or it can be bukaki or it can be lots of bodies or one body that is like your body, it’s anything that’s edgy (but let’s keep it legal and consensual).
The SHAPESHIFTER
Do you love it all?
Have you been told that you are Too Much?
Does a lot of what is listed above make your motor hum?
Do you always end up wanting more, a little more, a lot more, just…more?
The Shapeshifter loves all of the sensation and touch and play and fun in whatever form she wants it, in any given moment. Try to keep up, won’t you? And don’t be surprised if she changes her mind.
So, now that you know a little about them and have some thoughts about where you might find your jam, what do you DO about it?
Well…you can join the Erotic Freedom Club, for starters—and a membership comes as part of a coaching package with me, so why not sign up for the coaching and get it allll? (You can do that by checking out the ‘Store’ on this website or by emailing me, I would LOVE to have a free connection call to see if we are a good fit.
I will say this by way of recommendation: I’ve been married a long time and working with the Blueprints brought some much needed passion back into my marriage, possibly even saved it. Knowing my partner’s Blueprint and him knowing mine was a real game-changer and I know many, many folks who have found this to be true.
Stay tuned to this blog for more post about the Erotic Blueprints, Somatic Sexology, Sexuality Coaching, and so much more. Thank you for being here and for showing up for yourself and your pleasure!
~xo Bettina
